Some are obvious, some not so much. — I once was dating this girl who was about ten years older than me. Julie, who was this cute butch lesbian that I met in a bar when I was working, was the first woman I dated who was about the same age as my mom. She tipped me well…

When it comes to a threesome, being the guest star can be a lot more fun. — The first time a couple approached me to join them in a night of hot and heavy, no strings attached sex, I was at the gym. At first, it was just the husband who befriended me by inviting me to come and workout with him and his wife and some…

If you don’t go down on me. — We were lying in bed, and I was pretending to read a book, but my mind was elsewhere. As it does in longterm relationships, our evening routine had become pretty repetitive. My then-boyfriend and I were reaching that point in our evening when I would roll over and try to…

and honestly, I could not care less about it. — Growing up in a small, white, Midwestern town, I didn’t know what feminism was until I went to college. I was raised to believe that women were supposed to clean the house, cook the meals, go to church, read their bible, and obey their husbands. My mother, who did all…

and I still feel kind of weird about it. — Growing up in a conservative home, there are a lot of things that they shelter you from. I didn’t listen to music that wasn’t considered Christian or a golden old until I was in high school, and the only reason I managed that was on a trip to Europe without…

#3 Stalk his social media profiles religiously. — When it comes to dating, I am terrible. It’s honestly a laugh that I write about relationships and sexuality for a living, because I am the worst when it comes to dating. I have never really prided myself on being what one would deem as a great girlfriend. Rife with…

If you don’t know who you are sexually, you can’t expect your partner to know either. — It’s sad to say that it has taken me most of my life to find out who my authentic self was. Years of exploring and soul searching, taking time to live alone and get to know myself, finally brought me to a place where I know what I like and…

Not because someone caught feelings. — It is pretty common that friends with benefits end because one party develops feelings and one doesn’t. In all honesty, in my past situationships, it’s usually me that catches feelings for the other person and they don’t feel them in return. …

Fingering is still sexy AF. — Getting fingered always makes me think of high school. The night of the homecoming football game, I climbed into the car with a senior boy my best friend and I both liked, named Kyle. I was only fourteen and didn’t know about girl code yet. …